You ever wonder how different life would be if you said yes to
something instead of no, or vice versa? I’ve had a few of those in my life.
Recently, I thought of one when I heard “We don’t have to take our clothes off”, this one–hit wonder from the ‘80s by an artist named Jermaine
Stewart.
I cannot think of a more fitting song at a church dance.
The decision
It was the fall of 1986 and I was at the Sportsplex in Lethbridge
watching a high school football game with my buddies Randy and Dave. Our
beloved Kate Andrews Spartans had lost again, and we were leaving the field
when Randy pointed to a nearby church.
He kind of liked a girl who went to that church. Through his
connections, he heard there was a church dance that night. She might be there,
and he kind of wanted to check it out.
Dave and Randy were always up for trying something new.
I, on the other hand, was always the cautious and tentative one. My
first thought was, that we weren’t invited. What would happen if we got caught?
I was afraid of making a scene.
The others all scoffed, so I just went along.
There really was no need to worry.
The dance
We could hear the music pulsing as we approached the front doors.
Again, I was ready to turn around.
Dave and Randy said we just had to act like we belonged, so Randy
grabbed the door pulled it open boldly and walked through, with the rest of us
following behind.
“We don’t have to take our clothes off” was playing. We hovered near
the back of the room. Dave and Randy took the initiative and asked two girls to
dance. I thought that was awesome. I was also just struck by how everyone
looked so good.
Then it happened.
This girl walked up to me and asked me to dance.
It was the moment of truth for an insecure 16-year-old high-school
kid.
“No, thanks,” I said.
Incredible. Absolutely incredible.
The song ended, the guys seemed pretty thrilled with themselves, and
we left. All they really wanted to do was check out the dance, which they did.
We spent the rest of the night cruising up and down Mayor Magrath
Drive, then grabbed a pizza at Buffalo Bill's and went home.
The song
“We don’t have to take our clothes off” reached number five on the Billboard Hot 100, as well as number two in Canada and the United Kingdom. The song also appeared on "Miami Vice", as so much pop music of the time did as well.
Parting thoughts
Every time I hear “We don’t have to take our clothes off”, I think of
that church dance. I can even still picture the blue striped flannel shirt I
was wearing.
I sometimes wish 45-year-old Rob Vogt could go back and give his
16-year-old head a shake. It seems like such a little thing, but I wonder every
so often what would have changed in me had I said yes. Would it have given me
just a bit more self-confidence when I needed it most? Would we have hung
around and danced more? Would we have met some interesting people? And what about the girl? It took courage to ask, and I rejected that? How did that make her feel?
Maybe we would have just left after that one dance was over anyway.
Obviously, without a hot tub time machine, we’ll never know.
But knowing myself, had I had fun I would have wanted to stay, and I
know it would not have taken too much to convince the others.
But we’ll never know.
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